So many people play interviewer while dating . I don't and somehow I find out a lot more about people than the interviewer types. This is because I actually listen to what the other person is telling me about himself. Its not that I do not ask any questions , its just that I don't opt for mistress of interrogation mode.
People tell you everything you need to know about them, if only you would listen.
If a guy tells me he is at a specific religious level that is not mine i believe him. If someone tells me that he does not want to get married I believe him. If a tells me that he does not want to marry me I believe him. I don't second guess him and think that I know better when the person himself has stated clearly and specifically differently. Who knows a person better than ones self? Believe what a guy tells you about himself. He means it. He does know himself better than you do. Spare yourself the heartache and just listen.
That's because you're dating guys. Try being on the other side. "Oh she says 'that' but what does she really mean?"
ReplyDeleteWell, a lot of women play that game as well . I did not say that men are straightforward, I just said to pay attention to what they are saying. There are many men that do not listen to what woman are telling them and they assume a lot. The problem is that everyone does not always listen to each other and they also have selected listening skills . A lot of people hear what they want to hear .
ReplyDeleteI was saying that we all have to actually listen to what the other says
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