sensitive souls

whenever i leave someone a message on some one's answering machine that i have called just to chat and my friend doesnt call me back immediately i always assume that they are just busy. i assume that when the person has time to call back they will. this is always what i assume . nothing more and nothing less.
i have some friends who leave me messages that they are calling just to chat and think that im mad at them if i dont call them back within the next day. this of course is what they think because they are ultra-sensitive. usually if i dont call someone back right away it is because im busy and have no time to chat. its rarely because im mad at someone. sometimes i dont call someone back right away because i dont have a large block of time to schmooze and i know that the friend who has left a message will be offended if i dont have alot of time to chat. i wait until i have the time to chat and then i phone them. sometimes im so busy i have no time to call them briefly and tell them i dont have time to chat. that requires calling them at time when i dont think that they are home so i can just leave a message. i do try to leave a quick e-mail. this usually does the trick.
am i so arrogant that i figure that if someone doesnt return my phone call that they just dont have time? i think not. are those who think im angry when i dont call them back immediately -even when i tell them repeatedly that this isnt the case- overly sensitive? i think so. what do you think?

the importance of self confidence

self confidence is such an important midah to have. self confidence, not to be confused with arrogance or cockiness.
it is important not to base one's self esteem on other's opinions of one's self. if someone else thinks one is less than, it doesnt mean one is actually less than. its all well and good to be well liked, but if you only feel accepted because others accept you, there is a problem.
i have some friends who only think they are good people if they are in a relationship, if not they think that they are zeroes.
in my opinion, if a guy doesnt think im fabulous its his problem. if someone isnt in to me im doubly not in to him. of course maybe my lack of concern for others opinions is my problem....
maybe this is why i am still single . who knows. all i know is that love should be a two way street, and if it isnt , its not meant to be. i want to know someone wants me out of his own volition, and if not , the heck with him.
as that great old poem goes.... if you love someone set him free. if he comes back to you he was always yours. if he doesnt, he never was.
i also like the alternative ending : if he doesnt come back, hunt him down and shoot him.
without self confidence it would be hard to keep a job. one has to believe in one's own ability to succeed. to succeed in life, love and on the job.
this, in a nutshell is self confidence.