super talkers

yes , we all know them. and they are usually women. who are they? im speaking of super talkers - people who are fun to talk to but once engaged in conversation its hard to escape. i don't mind them so much if i see them in a random non-social environment, but they are deadly to speak to in shul or at a singles event because they zap you in and you can't get away and no one else comes by to say hello when you are talking to them because they don't want to get stuck as well. super talkers are nice people but they have tentacles. i used to talk to them more often but i find i like to talk to a variety of individuals who are preferably male at a  social event , not just one person.
recently ive taken to only speaking to super talkers for a few minutes and then i excuse myself. i usually feel bad when i excuse myself, but its worth it. every time i get sucked in and only talk to a super talker at a social event i regret it afterward.
i don't think that super talkers mean to monopolize my attention , its just that they can't help it or its the only way that they will have a long conversation with someone.

timing is everything....

this is something that many of the females in the audience can relate to . you talk to a guy at a party for a long time . you think he's interested and then lo and behold he does not ask you for your number. so obviously you figure this guy isn't interested . of course he just might not be divorced yet , just bored and needed to look like he was talking to an actual woman or he is socially awkward and isn't able to step up and actually ask  you for your number. either way, you as a woman are out of luck . obviously the next time you see this romeo you aren't exactly going to be so enthused to engage him in extensive conversation.
on the rare occasion that a mr chatty  does decide to ask for my number after meeting and chatting me up at many singles functions i always wonder why its taken him so long . then again that's if im still interested. a socially awkward guy really shoots himself in the foot if he waits until a subsequent meeting to finally ask a girl out. what had once been interest has now turned into annoyance or indifference . so really he has made it even harder for himself to get a girl's number. seizing the moment can be fraught with much anxiety. not seizing the moment can be even worse....