Simchas can be joyous. The also can be great windows into seeing who your true friends are as well as how gracious one is .
Recently I was not invited to a co-worker's wedding. Everyone else at the office was invited. We worked together for years and were friendly. Even if I had been invited I would not have been able to attend. The wedding was on Shabbos. The best part of not being invited is that I feel zero obligation to buy her a wedding gift. Had I been invited I would have . If she had invited me it would just have been an invitation for a gift since I would not have been able to attend. Even though I know all of this I still feel a pin prick bad about it.
Once I had a friend who made a simcha and later told me that she was sorry but she had forgotten to invite me. I did not forget to not get a gift for it. This of course was months after the simcha. I actually had known about it prior to her telling me because someone had mentioned to me that she had attended it. I think that that person had thought I had been invited but just did not attend. I of course said nothing. If someone does not invite me it says something about the friendship but there is really no need to discuss it . I may think that I should have been invited but apparently they hadn't . End of story. I certainly do not want to force anyone to desire my presence at their simcha.
Recently I was not invited to a co-worker's wedding. Everyone else at the office was invited. We worked together for years and were friendly. Even if I had been invited I would not have been able to attend. The wedding was on Shabbos. The best part of not being invited is that I feel zero obligation to buy her a wedding gift. Had I been invited I would have . If she had invited me it would just have been an invitation for a gift since I would not have been able to attend. Even though I know all of this I still feel a pin prick bad about it.
Once I had a friend who made a simcha and later told me that she was sorry but she had forgotten to invite me. I did not forget to not get a gift for it. This of course was months after the simcha. I actually had known about it prior to her telling me because someone had mentioned to me that she had attended it. I think that that person had thought I had been invited but just did not attend. I of course said nothing. If someone does not invite me it says something about the friendship but there is really no need to discuss it . I may think that I should have been invited but apparently they hadn't . End of story. I certainly do not want to force anyone to desire my presence at their simcha.
