Tuesday, October 29, 2019

Mini AOC

 This little girl is my hero. She makes me laugh so much. She should be on Saturday Night Live. 

Monday, October 28, 2019

I Think My head is going to Explode

    I am all for being respectful of all human beings. I also think that with the distribution of the above video that the world is sinking to a new low and society is at risk of being destroyed. We have reached the forty ninth level of toomah.
   The above video  is just a fad . It claims gender is  a state of mind not biological  based on the feelings of those who have gender dysphoria. There are only 2 genders. Women can act and feel many different ways. Men can act and  feel many different ways. I feel bad for people who have this illness where they think they are the opposite gender, but just because they feel that way does not make it so. The leftists want to convince us that there are no genders and that someone can choose their gender. This is all a bunch of poppycock. Science has taught  us that biology dictates so much in the human body, its all in our DNA. , especially gender. Oh and don't get me started about non-binary. The only people who are non-binary people are those who actually are intersex who aren't any of the people represented in this video.
    I have been hearing about this nonsense for years, but I never paid it much heed because I thought it was so far out. I want to know what moron let this slide in. This is Brave New World stuff and is not good for anyone especially women.
    I have heard of people who want co-ed camp cabins in defense of such imagination. I am so glad that I am an adult and that I am an observant Jew. No good can come from this free for all that is being proposed.

Monday, July 29, 2019

The Secret Life of Alopecia

    All my life I have had unruly thick curly hair . As I have gotten older it has thinned a little but nothing most people would notice and it actually was kind of nice because it has made my hair a little less out of control. Nothing of course could have prepared me for the oh so not fun symptoms of alopecia areata.
     Not long after my brother passed away I noticed a quarter sized bald spot on the left side of my scalp. I know that I have a lot of hair to cover it up but that did  not make it any less upsetting. For a few weeks I used the anti inflammatory medication my dermatologist suggested to no avail . Even worse the bald spot spread. Unless you have experienced this you can't imagine how awful it is.
     Alopecia areata is often brought on by extreme stress. It is an autoimmune disease that tells your cells to attack your hair follicles and make you lose patches of hair. The sudden loss of my brother brought it on. One's hair grows back after alopecia areata but it can take awhile. Some people lose all of their hair from it and often there is more than one bald spot. In my case I have one large spot and two other smaller spots. The hair is now SLOWLY growing back but only due to the VERY painful injections  from my dermatologist.
        I have friends who laugh at me because my hair covers my bald spots. They  don't realize how unsettling alopecia is . Nothing like the fear of alopecia totalis to keep a person up at night . The worst part is that because stress can cause alopecia , worrying about it really does not help.
       I never felt too excited about covering my hair after marriage but in the condition I am in now it does not sound so bad !
       Men reading this probably don't feel bad for me but it really is worse for a woman to suffer hair loss than for a man just as being a short  woman is not as bad as being a height deficient male.
        I realize that this is not the worst ailment to suffer from. When a good friend's dad passed away she got shingles. Nonetheless, alopecia areata is no picnic.

Sunday, July 7, 2019

is it Safe Anywhere?

    Though I have gone to shul after the tragic and horrific shul shootings this year I admit that I still have a nagging fear deep within . I have played hooky from shul more than I normally do.
      A few weeks ago on a day that I also did not go to shul there was a  fire in my apartment building where I found out that none of the smoke detectors in the common area hallways were working. So much for feeling like I don't want to get out of bed in the morning. 
     I guess the world isn't a safe place and one can't predict what might happen next. I have always know this but never realized how far reaching the consequences of  this are. 
         I have learned two things in the past few weeks. . Make sure to  have a fire escape route and its better to focus on where one  should be than where one shouldn't be. 

Monday, May 27, 2019

Memorial Day

   Today is Memorial Day for all the soldiers who gave their lives for the United States. May they rest in peace. Today would have been my brother's birthday so for me its a different kind of memorial day and somewhat ironic. Its been six months since my youngest brother passed away. I still miss him very much, but the reality has more than set in. Life has moved on. I feel like taking time out to remember him helps keep him alive.
     My youngest brother was a creative person. He had eclectic taste and would have made a wonderful dad or uncle. He was fun to be around and had great life hacks. I always think of him when I travel because he was the king of packing light. He lived a short  but good life and he tried to live life to its fullest which is all anyone can do. No one really knows how long one has but we have more control over our attitude and how we try to spend our lives.
     My youngest brother was a ray of sunshine on this earth. Ray was his middle name and I think that its quite appropriate because he was a ray of sunshine when he was alive and his memory brings a ray of sunshine to those who knew and loved him. 

Sunday, May 26, 2019

Inheritance by Dani Shapiro

     I have read all of Dani Shapiro's books and though  I loved them all, I think that this last one was my favorite.
     Dani Shapiro grew up modern orthodox in New Jersey . She  went off the derech  and wrote a lot about her life and finding her life in general. She is not shomer shabbat now but she has found where she is comfortable in Judaism and is proud of where she comes from. 
   Shapiro's latest book is about finding out via a genealogy test that her father was not her biological father and that she was born as a result of a sperm donor because her parents were having fertility issues. This book is about that journey. The journey of finding out who her biological father was and reconciling why her parents had never told her the truth about her conception while  both of her parents have been deceased for many years.
          Shapiro had already written so many memoirs that it was almost fitting that such a story should be hers.  In every book she recounts how people often thought she wasn't really Jewish and now she knows its because the  donor was not Jewish. 
    What is so interesting to me is how this seems like the most Jewish book she has written even as she finds out that her biological father was not. Shapiro never really says that she ever struggled with her Jewish identity , only about how she wanted to express it.
      Ironically she could have lived her whole life not knowing the truth. Fortunate for here the way she found out this news was by chance and not because of a medical issue.
      The book makes it seem like though she is quite cemented in her Jewishness that this revelation made her think a little about it. I went to a book event for Inheritance where she mentioned how someone asked her at another venue if she was now going to explore her Christian heritage to which she emphatically said NO. Judaism is her only identity. It is so rooted in her. She even thinks in Hebrew. This of course was the response I wanted to hear but the book for theatrics did not as clearly portray.
       I really should not have doubted Shapiro. The father who raised her was the parent she was closest to. She would not be on this earth in the way she was conceived had her parents not wanted her to exist. Her family made her feel a part of them and ironically her mother who was the less Jewishly affiliated made Shapiro Jewish without question.
        This book is so beautifully written. . As much as she explores her relationship to her biological father she really is writing a love letter to her father who raised her .


Monday, May 6, 2019

Acts of Kindness

     I have a subscription to Woman;s Day magazine and they have a column named The Kindness Project which celebrates and encourages kindness in the world. I have to admit that this was one of the reasons I subscribed to the magazine. The world seems to be experiencing such darkness lately that the focus on kindness seems like  a beacon of hope .
      In the spirit of the kindness project and to tip the scales of the world toward a kinder , gentler place I will recount an act of kindness that I witnessed on the Q train in NYC this week.
     One day this week after the Q train left the Dekalb Avenue station the woman sitting across from me threw up and almost fainted. One women asked if there was a doctor or nurse on the train of which there were not. Many people offered the sick woman a plastic bag for her to throw up in , others gave her water and Kleenex. When we finally got to Canal Street someone got out of the subway car and told the conductor about the sick passenger. This is not anomaly . This happens whenever someone is sick on the subway. Even hardened New Yorkers step up when necessary. Not always, but often enough to give me hope for a brighter tomorrow.