When someone asks you out and you are not interested the best thing to do is say no thanks . Don't say you are dating someone . Don't make excuses. Just say no.
A while ago a guy seven years younger than I am asked me out. I had zero interest in him. Silly me I thought that the age difference might be an issue for him so I told him my age. Big Mistake. He was still interested and now every time he sees me he asks me "What's seven years? What's seven years?" Crap. I'm not interested in him AND he knows how old I am. If only I had been honest and just said "No thanks , I am not interested" life would have been so much simpler.
Purim at Pomegranate supermarket is kind of like a Purim wonderland. Its a bit over the top, more like X-mas over the top than any Chanukah display I have ever seen. I love it though. Purim is one of my favorite holidays and its great that there is a Jewish store that goes to town with the anticipation of Purim.
Due to the cold and snowy weather lately I have been spending a lot of time on the train so I have photographed it. The second picture here is not on the train but outside of the train station . Its part of the train theme so I thought I could include it.
Work is always a game of chess where one is always trying to choose the best strategies, It is also where I hone my drama skills.
There is a new employee where I work. I took one look at her and knew I did not like her and then realized as much as I did not like her I knew that I had to pretend with all my might to fake friendliness toward her. Thank goodness that was my instinct. Turns out she is on the paranoid side and thinks people are talking about her when she leaves the room. I barely remember she works in my office when she is in a different room and she thinks everyone is talking about her when she leaves the room .Figures.
I never think that anyone is talking about me when I am not in the room. When I walk into a room and people stop talking I just figure they are talking about something personal instead of about moi. But that's just me.If I actually heard my name mentioned I might think differently, but otherwise I'm oblivious. I just don't think that I am the most popular topic of discussion among my co-workers.
Its winter and as usual there are the thermostat wars at work. Some people are always hot and others are always cold. Fortunately this year there are more people in the always hot camp than in the always cold camp so I am quite comfortable. Ironically the office is usually much cooler in the summer than it is in the winter.
I think that for a lot of people feeling hot or cold is all psychological. If its winter people want it to be ultra warm inside and in the summer they think that it should be ice box cold.
While dating one often hears that the hard part about dating an older person dating is that one becomes more set in ones ways. Part of this used to scare me. Would I end up one of those "older singles" who is set in my ways? I have always tried to be a flexible person and to try new experiences and make new friends. Would that period of my life end before I would find my bashert? I really don't know the answer to any of these questions, but I have learned a few things along the way. Over time a person learns what they like and what they don't like. Unless one is depressed one tries to engage in activities one enjoys and spend time with those who are uplifting . Once one knows what one likes it makes it harder to try other things because one becomes busy and doesn't have as much time to experiment . Then again some people always like to try new things and others never did even when they were younger. Being settled can also be comforting. Its nice to have routine. Its wonderful to have the same friends one has had for over ten years. Its amazing to have people in one's life who know one's good points and bad points and have remained in one's life for many years. Its also good to know who one is.
I think the idea is to strike the right balance. As much as one should not be too staid being x years old and being completely unreliable , unemployed and unstable are not good options either.