Mars and Venus

      Years ago I read John Gray's book MEN ARE FROM MARS AND WOMEN ARE FROM VENUS. For those of you who may not have read it , this is a book about how men and women think different and once everyone realizes this it will be easier to form relationships with each other. While it is true that not all women are one way and not all men are the same, there was a lot of truth to Gray's book.
       My most favorite jewel from this book is that women connect through speaking and venting. There is not necessarily a purpose to the conversation. Its about the journey. Men speak for a reason and usually to solve a problem. I wish I had known this when I was twenty. I would not have believed it, but it would have been nice to at least been privy to this . So often on a date I would innocuously speak  about something and suddenly my date would be trying to solve my "problem" that I didn't realize he was going to decide to fix. It was also downright annoying. I didn't have a problem, I was merely sharing.
       Now that I have realized that men often can't identify when I am venting , I actually tell them that I am venting and that the only solution needed is listening  to me.