One phrase you won't hear me say is "I can't complain" . I will complain and don't stop me. The worst thing to do is to wax poetically about how I should not complain when I need to vent. If I am allowed to vent I will quickly vent and then it will be over. If I am not validated I will continue to harp about what is bothering me . Let me vent and just say nothing. I know that it shouldn't matter if others dismiss my venting, but it does. I just need to be heard. I guess that's why I like blogging.