when my father passed away i realized that in addition to ceasing to be a father he ceased being a husband. having never been married i don't usually think about what would be like to not be married anymore due to a spouse passing on.
as much as i enjoy being alone and being able to do what i want when i want , i see the value of sharing one's life with a spouse no matter how long or short that joined life might last. life is meant to be shared with others, even when its "just" with good friends. its is important to be able to be comfortable alone. sometimes one gets to choose to be alone, other times its imposed upon a person due to the cycle of life.