do some people live charmed lives while others have bad luck? is life a challenge for everyone that no one escapes? i think that some people have it easier than others . its not that everyone does not have their own difficulties, but some people have bigger tests than others do.
people always try to tell me that people who have managed to get married and have kids have it bad too whenever i feel bad about my lot in life. now come on, im not an idiot. happily married life has its challenges as well as parenthood, but i wouldn't say that not having either is having a better life or an equally bad life.
what about people who have horrible diseases? i don't think that's an easier life than someone who is healthy and single or healthy and married with children.
perhaps small challenges seem large to the weak, but a small misfortune is not equal to a large misfortune even if one might be able to handle it.
i reconcile the fact that some have easier lives than others to the fact that life is not fair and that we don't understand why some have easier lives than others. hashem has a reason why this happens, but we don't know why.
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Like many phrases people say, I don't think this one has any basis in reality. People do have secret problems, most people do, but certain ones are obviously worse. Someone has cancer, major depression, etc, is getting it a lot worse all the time than someone with a boring marriage. There are definitely rankings.
Seriously? People tell you that married folks have sucky lives, so feel better?
Whoa.
We really don't know what goes on beyond closed doors, and we shouldn't know. Everyone has their own challenges, and while they may differ in ranking (illness really takes the cake) how people handle their own issues also varies in success. Other people's seemingly "easier" lives may or may not be so.
In times of lowless, I think the way to go is to not compare our own lives with others - it will always be an incomplete picture. Rather, connect one's own life with Hashem's guidance. Find His presence in the day to day.
yes , people have said to me that married people have sucky lives and therefore its not bad to be single. obviously there are a lot of bad marriages, but not all are bad and many are very good.
i do agree with you that its best not to compare to others and to try to be happy with one's own lot.
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