Getting to know another person is complicated. Often when there is a new person at work and they seem nice at first I am not quite sure if they truly are nice to the core. When I first meet someone I realize that I really do not know them. It takes a while to get to really know them. It takes time to see the patterns of their behavior and to really know what is true about them. The same holds true of dating. You meet someone. You tell them your stories, they tell you theirs but it takes longer to get to know who someone really is. To really get to know someone is more than interview Q&A. Getting to know someone over time is how one gets to know another.
Often I meet someone on a date and even if my like for him does not change, it is always a different like later than it is from date one. When one gets to know someone they become multi-faceted in one's eyes. What one liked about the person from the beginning may have nothing to do with what one likes about them as time goes on.
Often I meet someone on a date and even if my like for him does not change, it is always a different like later than it is from date one. When one gets to know someone they become multi-faceted in one's eyes. What one liked about the person from the beginning may have nothing to do with what one likes about them as time goes on.
4 comments:
There should be a rule: you show up for a date having sleep-deprived yourself the night before and wearing no make up, jewelry or fancy clothes. If that honest first impression goes well then you can relax. It's meant.
Perhaps, but I always think that at the beginning a person should try to give a good impression and if you don't make a good effort at the beginning its just all down hill after that when one has their guard down later on.
I dunno. It's easy to make a good first impression. One wears one's best outfit, one brings one's best jokes and anecdotes. Heck, even I could impress the occasional girl on a first day once in a while. The question is: what about the second date when the good shtick is already used up?
Yes, well that's the point. One does not really know someone when one first meets them. It takes a little while to get to know someone. Getting to know someone is more than what one looks like.
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