There are two kinds of people- those who are what you see is what you get and those who you have to get to know. I'm not exactly sure which type I am but I suspect is that I am more the type you have to get to know . I am fine with that. Years ago I had found this frustrating .Sometimes what is so apparent about some is so abhorrent that it would be better if it was more hidden. Then again maybe it's better that way. Sometimes when you get to know someone it gets better sometimes its worse. It's all about being willing to make that journey.