ive been tagged to do a meme. im not sure exactly what it means, but ill do my best.
the rules are to turn to page 56 of the nearest book and include the 5th sentence and then write down the 2nd to 5th sentence . and of course tag others to do the same.
the book i chose is the book of dahlia by elisa albert. here goes:
"danny found his calling in comforting and entertaining his baby sister. it got so that dahlia couldnt be put down for a nap or bathed or comforted after a boo-boo unless it was by danny. bruce and margalit watched incredulously as their total #*&%* of a little boy morphed into his sisters adoring caretaker. danny would play dolls with dahlia for hours on end. he read to her, he made up private preverbal jokes with her, rushed home from school to hang out with her."
by the way, im only up to page 55 .
the rules are to next state 7 facts about myself and then tag others and link them . and to leave a comment on their blog saying they've been tagged.
fact 1. i have verrry curly hair.
fact 2. i chose the name frum single female to be kind of like single white female, nicejewishgirl or maidel ,if you catch my drift.
fact 3. im a very creative person. i enjoy crocheting, photography and writing ( well i guess you know that one)
fact 4. im one of the many who have been a shabbos counselor at bais ezra . bais ezra is a group home for mentally retarded jewish women in boro park, brooklyn.
fact 5. my favorite colors are pink and purple.
fact 6. though i do own a cell phone, i hate being out on the town with friends who answer their cellphones and have long chats with others that are not urgent calls.
fact 7. i love reading silly magazines like allure, self , glamour. im not a reader of vogue or cosmopolitan.
and there you have it. i was tagged by mikeinmidwood, and dys. ill link to fruminsouthflorida, webgirl, katrina, onefrumskeptic , lubabnomore ,smoo, levadi
Monday, December 29, 2008
Sunday, December 28, 2008
the last night of hanukkah....
i was at union square tonight and i heard music. the music of chabad lighting the menorah. so of course i located the mitzvah tank and snapped photos. i of course found something quite interesting in the process. the mitzvah tank was right behind a whole obama-memorabilia concession stand. unwittingly, it looked like obama was endorsing chabad's mission to spread yiddishkeit. quite funny and wholly not intended!
Friday, December 26, 2008
its all a set-up.
in the shtetls of eastern europe the shadchan was all the rage. i think that in shtetl culture where basicly everyone knew each other this was probably a valuable venue. in 2008, almost 2009 , im not too sure that it is.
a shadchan usually meets her client once and then tries to "set them up" . how can a shadchan set two people up without knowing them and expect it to work out. i suppose if one goes by the "you never know " cliche, then perhaps. but usually its alot more like spinning the dice or playing paper scissors , rock.
my answer to those who abide by the "you never know " cliche is "oh yes i do". once in awhile by accident a shadchan might make a shidduch with that theory, but one cant rely on the consistency of happenstance.
when a shadchan so nonchalantly asks me my age i am always inwardly estimating their age. only once has a shadchan told me her age during one of those shidduch interrogations. i think all shadchanim should do this. and of course we'll just add 10 years to their answer ....just to be safe.
with shadchanim 40 is the new 30 and he has been 30 for the last ten years... at least...
shadchanim ask their clients for references, but of course they never check them out. they leave that to their lowly clients. though i would trust my investigative abilities over that of a shadchan , i still dont quite understand why they dont do reference checking before setting someone up, just to be sure they arent setting up an axe murderer. arent they afraid of lawsuits?
i spent much of my twenties going on shidduch dates. by the time i turned thirty i decided that there has got to be a better way. so ive tried the dating websites and singles events. these venues have not yet found me my zivug , but at least i feel more in control of my destiny than when i solely relied on others to scope out my zivug.
a shadchan usually meets her client once and then tries to "set them up" . how can a shadchan set two people up without knowing them and expect it to work out. i suppose if one goes by the "you never know " cliche, then perhaps. but usually its alot more like spinning the dice or playing paper scissors , rock.
my answer to those who abide by the "you never know " cliche is "oh yes i do". once in awhile by accident a shadchan might make a shidduch with that theory, but one cant rely on the consistency of happenstance.
when a shadchan so nonchalantly asks me my age i am always inwardly estimating their age. only once has a shadchan told me her age during one of those shidduch interrogations. i think all shadchanim should do this. and of course we'll just add 10 years to their answer ....just to be safe.
with shadchanim 40 is the new 30 and he has been 30 for the last ten years... at least...
shadchanim ask their clients for references, but of course they never check them out. they leave that to their lowly clients. though i would trust my investigative abilities over that of a shadchan , i still dont quite understand why they dont do reference checking before setting someone up, just to be sure they arent setting up an axe murderer. arent they afraid of lawsuits?
i spent much of my twenties going on shidduch dates. by the time i turned thirty i decided that there has got to be a better way. so ive tried the dating websites and singles events. these venues have not yet found me my zivug , but at least i feel more in control of my destiny than when i solely relied on others to scope out my zivug.
Tuesday, December 23, 2008
would u date a blogger?
the blogosphere can be a fun social outlet . but what if this fantasy outlet of ours became reality? what then ? would you consider dating a blogger?
you read a blogger's blog if they have one. you read a bloggers comments if they are only a commenter. you get to know them a little. but is this really who they are? you only get to know the part of them that appears online. unless a blogger has an honest photo of him or herself online, you only get to know them as through their words. their words might only be an act. then again , if you meet someone in real life their words may be just as oscar worthy .
i do prefer to keep my blogging life separate from my real life (yes, there is a difference), but interacting with blogging singles has taught me a thing or two. there are some weirdos out there, and some who are immature, but there are also alot of thoughtful and insightful bloggers out there. i may never meet any of them in real life, but its nice to know they exist on the blogoshpere.
you read a blogger's blog if they have one. you read a bloggers comments if they are only a commenter. you get to know them a little. but is this really who they are? you only get to know the part of them that appears online. unless a blogger has an honest photo of him or herself online, you only get to know them as through their words. their words might only be an act. then again , if you meet someone in real life their words may be just as oscar worthy .
i do prefer to keep my blogging life separate from my real life (yes, there is a difference), but interacting with blogging singles has taught me a thing or two. there are some weirdos out there, and some who are immature, but there are also alot of thoughtful and insightful bloggers out there. i may never meet any of them in real life, but its nice to know they exist on the blogoshpere.
however the spirit moves you
i dont remember which year it was when i started hearing people chant "happy holidays" instead of "merry x-mas". im glad the change has taken over, even though when people say "happy holidays" they always seem to mean x-mas and goyeshe new year's and not Hanukkah. no matter, i still prefer deluding myself in to thinking that "happy holidays" includes "happy Hanukkah". its kind of like including your photo in your jdate or frumster profile, you get a "no thank you " letter and you assume its that they didnt like your profile when they probably just didnt like your photo. aint delusion grand.
when i say " happy holidays" this time of the year i mean "happy whatever holiday you happen to be celebrating". and if im totally honest, i have a little ethnocentrism and really think im wishing everyone a "happy Hanukkah" when i wish someone "happy holidays" .
..... HAPPY SECOND DAY OF HANUKKAH!
Monday, December 22, 2008
gelt vs gifts
some say Hanukkah gelt is more jewish than Hanukkah presents. i for one will be happy to accept both.
i wont pretend to know definitvely why this is , but i personally think that getting hannukah gelt is the same as getting a Hanukkah present. perhaps bubby and zaidy didnt know what to get the grandchildren for Hanukkah one year, so they settled on giving them a little gelt and thats how the whole tradition of Hanukkah gelt started!
is gelt more jewish because jews are greedy?
gelt is a gift because anything i have to write a thank -you note for recieving is a gift in my book.
perhaps Hanukkah gifts are exchanged due to the juxtposition of x-mas and Hanukkah. so the young-uns wouldnt get jealous. no matter. its not assur to exchange gifts on Hanukkah (although im sure some scroogey rebbe must think it is). if it is its a well kept secret. ( that hopefully will stay that way).
i wish all of my readers a happy Hanukkah, lots of gelt or gifts, whichever you prefer!!!
Sunday, December 21, 2008
a rose by any other name...
one of my favorite shows is that seventies show. i always wondered what fez's real name was. i think i had missed the episode when he came to town , told everyone what his name was and then everyone decided to call him fez because no one could pronounce his real name. i can relate.
when i came to new york i found it really funny how people pronounce certain letters and insist that this is the proper way. the new york way isnt the proper way. newscasters always affect a midwestern accent because its easier to understand thank you very much.
when i first heard the last name kaufman pronounced 'cow f man' instead of 'cough man' i was really glad that kaufman isnt my last name. i realize that 'cow f man ' is the german pronunciation and is probably the "proper " pronunciation , but it just sounds so awful . and who wants to have a last name that has the word cow in it if its not necessary?
on 90210 the andrea character wanted her name pronounced 'ahndrea' instead of 'and rea'. and she was lucky because both are easily pronounced by her fellow californians. but what do u do when the pronunciation of your name is really difficult for the inhabitants of your new city to pronounce? what then? what happens when the way they pronounce your name sounds like nails on a chalk board? then what do u do? what do u do when they insist the way they say your name is the way it should be said? EXCUSE ME!! are you inferring that i dont know how to pronounce my own name, you of little intellect? i of course offer alternative pronunciations that arent as abhorrent to my ears. most people are cooperative. some arent. which is quite rude.
i really feel for those who have foreign names that no one can properly pronounce. thats even worse. at least some people are able to pronounce my name the way i like to hear it said.
when i came to new york i found it really funny how people pronounce certain letters and insist that this is the proper way. the new york way isnt the proper way. newscasters always affect a midwestern accent because its easier to understand thank you very much.
when i first heard the last name kaufman pronounced 'cow f man' instead of 'cough man' i was really glad that kaufman isnt my last name. i realize that 'cow f man ' is the german pronunciation and is probably the "proper " pronunciation , but it just sounds so awful . and who wants to have a last name that has the word cow in it if its not necessary?
on 90210 the andrea character wanted her name pronounced 'ahndrea' instead of 'and rea'. and she was lucky because both are easily pronounced by her fellow californians. but what do u do when the pronunciation of your name is really difficult for the inhabitants of your new city to pronounce? what then? what happens when the way they pronounce your name sounds like nails on a chalk board? then what do u do? what do u do when they insist the way they say your name is the way it should be said? EXCUSE ME!! are you inferring that i dont know how to pronounce my own name, you of little intellect? i of course offer alternative pronunciations that arent as abhorrent to my ears. most people are cooperative. some arent. which is quite rude.
i really feel for those who have foreign names that no one can properly pronounce. thats even worse. at least some people are able to pronounce my name the way i like to hear it said.
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