verbal shorthand

the best kinds of relationships are when two people speak the same language so much so that they dont need to finish their sentences when they speak to each other. ive had alot of relationships where the other person THINKS they get what im saying but dont. im not speaking of THOSE types of relationships. im speaking of the type of relationship where two people actually are speaking the same "language" . its so comfortable to have this verbal shorthand. so sad when its over. so hard to rebuild. so worth the effort though. the eternal quest for mutual appreciation and understanding for the essence of another.... the search continues....

obama and the fly

if you have been reading this blog you probably know that im not big into animal or insect rights, however i did feel compelled to write about this topic. obama the fly swatter.
when i saw the alleged obama fly swatting episode the first thought that ran through my mind was "what will peta's reaction be?" well, i wasnt disappointed. peta denounced obama's actions and sent him a humane fly catcher that sucks up the fly so you can later send the fly (alive) back to nature.
anyone remember that saying"wouldnt hurt a fly"? apparently this attribute cannot be attributed to our fearless president obama. hmm....
i also managed to find the reactions to many vegans about obama's fly smashing. many defended him. they thought it only natural to swat a fly. yeah, well if bibi had done the same thing they would be all over him like white on rice!
growing up my mom had a fly swatter and she would often swat flies with it. i do remember her opening the back door of our house to try to guide bees out of the house without swatting them first.
i dont think the obama fly fiasco is a problem on a literal level, i think the issue is what it represents. what message is this fly trying to tell us? how many world leader fly swattings can you recall? obama also had a noticeable fly on his head during the presidential debates. what's up with this? what about him attracts the flies so? even obama worshippers have to admit this is kind of odd.
my final question is what issue was obama discussing with john harwood of cnn during this fly swatting? does anyone even remember?

back on the wagon

after seeing some recent photos of myself ive decide to get back on the wagon . the diet wagon that is. ive been talking, reading and writing alot about it lately and now ive decided to do something about it. ive signed up for weight watchers online. last time i lost a sizable chunk of weight i did the weight watchers route where i attended meetings. i lost the weight i wanted, went to meetings even after i reached goal weight, but after awhile i became bored with the meetings. they were all the same. eventually i was gaining weight even though i was attending meetings.

i havent yet regained all of the weight i had lost, but i dont want to get to that point. hence my rejoining a weight loss program. i tried doing self magazine's version for awhile. its not terrible, but i like weight watchers' plan better. thus ive bitten the bullet and joined.

i have several friends who are fifty pounds heavier than i am who wont understand why i want to lose 15 pounds. i think this makes them feel bad about themselves. this time around i wont mention my weight loss plans with them.

its funny how so many of us have such unhealthy relationships with food. i tend to overindulge like pig while others prefer to starve themselves. to me these are two sides of the same coin. my issues make me want to eat more, their issues make them not want to eat.its too bad that those on each side dont help each other more. i have a good friend who is anorexic who always asks me how i can have an appetite. i of course always have an appetite. then again, its not necessarily a bad thing. the only time i havent had an appetite was right after 9/11. not only did i not have an appetite, but when i put food in my mouth and tried to eat, i could not taste it. it was like eating sawdust. after awhile my appetite came back. this experience did help me understand what might make some one anorexic. although i do need to curb my freestyle eating habits, i am thankful that i do have an appetite and that i can appreciate the taste of food.

are engagement rings necessary?

yesterday i had a lively discussion with friends about the ritual of engagement rings . are they necessary ? are they just as good if they are cubic zirconium?
i do think that engagement rings are an extravagance, but i also know that i would want to get one if/when i get engaged. i hate to admit it, but one of the reasons i would want one is because most women tend to get them from their fiances. i dont need the most expensive one in the shop, but i would like one. at least i admit it. and yes i would like a real diamond. i know its very materialistic, but i do feel this way.
on the other hand, i dont think that i would want a big blowout wedding. if i actually found someone i would want to spend the rest of my life with i would be happy. of course i say this now, but one never know when bridezilla might rear her ugly head. one never truly knows who may turn into a bridezilla.
what ifs are always fun to contemplate, especially when they are the occasional postive what ifs. usually im pondering worst case scenario what ifs.

an unanswered query

why do the french like obama so much? this puzzles me. i encountered someone recently who lives in france and i asked her this question. she just thought that the french like him just because he's not bush. the thing is , i dont recall the french loving bill clinton so much.or any other american president in my lifetime. or at least i dont remember them giving any of them so much fanfare.
i also asked this acquaintance how she liked living in france as a former american. after all , the french never seemed to like americans all that much. she seemed to think that the french always liked americans and that they like them even more since obama is president. the french just didnt like bush. this to me was an outright rewriting of history. then again my acquaintance only moved to france six years ago. what does she know?
i still dont get it. why do the french like obama so? is it because they think he's a pushover? do they like obama because of his muslim lineage? why, why, why???

sensitive souls

whenever i leave someone a message on some one's answering machine that i have called just to chat and my friend doesnt call me back immediately i always assume that they are just busy. i assume that when the person has time to call back they will. this is always what i assume . nothing more and nothing less.
i have some friends who leave me messages that they are calling just to chat and think that im mad at them if i dont call them back within the next day. this of course is what they think because they are ultra-sensitive. usually if i dont call someone back right away it is because im busy and have no time to chat. its rarely because im mad at someone. sometimes i dont call someone back right away because i dont have a large block of time to schmooze and i know that the friend who has left a message will be offended if i dont have alot of time to chat. i wait until i have the time to chat and then i phone them. sometimes im so busy i have no time to call them briefly and tell them i dont have time to chat. that requires calling them at time when i dont think that they are home so i can just leave a message. i do try to leave a quick e-mail. this usually does the trick.
am i so arrogant that i figure that if someone doesnt return my phone call that they just dont have time? i think not. are those who think im angry when i dont call them back immediately -even when i tell them repeatedly that this isnt the case- overly sensitive? i think so. what do you think?

people for the ethical treatment of humans.

its not that i think that anyone should harm an animal , i just think that everyone ive ever met who is devoutly into animal rights is a lunatic. its their religion. they also dont usually care much for humans.
its so easy to care more about animals than about people. animals are much less complicated than humans. the time being spent worrying about animals could be spent curing world (people) hunger or promoting world peace.
cruelty-free doesnt mean a the factory making clinique wasnt harassed by their employers it just means an animal wasnt. big whoop. for arguments sake it would be nice if both werent harmed but peta doesnt think so. people dont rate with peta. anyway all cosmetic ingredients have been tested on humans at some point, it just means that the whole product hasnt been tested on animals .
animal rights activists care little about homeless people . now a homeless cat... thats another thing.