yesterday i had a lively discussion with friends about the ritual of engagement rings . are they necessary ? are they just as good if they are cubic zirconium?
i do think that engagement rings are an extravagance, but i also know that i would want to get one if/when i get engaged. i hate to admit it, but one of the reasons i would want one is because most women tend to get them from their fiances. i dont need the most expensive one in the shop, but i would like one. at least i admit it. and yes i would like a real diamond. i know its very materialistic, but i do feel this way.
on the other hand, i dont think that i would want a big blowout wedding. if i actually found someone i would want to spend the rest of my life with i would be happy. of course i say this now, but one never know when bridezilla might rear her ugly head. one never truly knows who may turn into a bridezilla.
what ifs are always fun to contemplate, especially when they are the occasional postive what ifs. usually im pondering worst case scenario what ifs.
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I guess it's a matter of tradition and amount of money available on the chosson's side. For example I recently found out that Chabad guys don't have engagement parties and rings, but just have a kidush-style event. I think it's very appropriate in certain cases.
i dont know about the ring part,but my cousins are lubavitch and though they called it a l'chaim and not a vort they definitely had engagement parties. this was 2-3 yrs ago. of course it could be different as of this year.
i do agree with you that it does depend on the money issue. i was more writing about the concept itself
As far as I understand it was the diamond companies who created these expectations, and now that there are such expectations, as you have said, they've become necessities.
Well if there's no question then why not? Girls like blinky things, especially quality ones, it's always cool to make someone feel happy.
If money are tight may be it's better to consider buying something more serious and significant post-wedding instead of engagement ring. Again this depends on a girl too - for her engagement ring could be a more significant item just by the fact of meaning behind this ring.
It was supposed to say "if there's no question in money"
Are engagement rings necessary? One word: YES.
My $.02.
Necessary or not, the peer pressure will make you want one no matter what you orginally thought.
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