some of the families who invite me for shabbos meals drill in to there kids that they must not ask these taboo questions . how old are u? do you have any kids ? are you married?
at a singles event, the last two questions may be appropriate, but the first one is not. yes, we all want to know the age of a prospective individual, but its better not to ask right away.
i was once at a singles event where right after hi how are you, i was asked my age. on the one hand if someone is outright asking age, they probably think you are younger than you appear. if you look older, they automatically know not to ask.! on the other hand if one doesnt want to answer it belies that one is old enough not to want to reveal ones age. fortunately , in the frum community that age is 25+ . so if you dont want to answer, it doesnt infer too much!!
i suppose i should start to worry when someone doesnt ask my age , because that will mean they think im too old for it to be polite to ask!
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