the most important thing is to be able to love and accept a person for who they are and not for what one wishes they would be. the only person one can change is oneself. sad , but true. then again its not so simple to change oneself either!
after the initial stages of a relationship when two people get to know each other one sees who the other is good and bad. if one doesn't see any negatives it is even scarier. to love a person for who he/she is means that there can be true love. if one only loves the illusion of what one thinks the other person is or wants the other person to be this is not true love and it wont last very long.