when online dating remains online dating

i truly am a fan of trying to find a man via the internet dating websites, however sometimes i feel that alot of men(and im sure women do as well) like to prolong the online aspect of the relationship before graduating to actually talking on the phone or better yet actually meeting the other person. when i suggest a guy call me , he decides he might im a bit before making that all important phone call step. or bettter yet, me and said prospective internet love interest have already gone out several times, but said prospective internet love interest would still prefer to email ask me out instead of actually phoning me. and this preference isnt because he's too busy to call or doesnt own a phone, its because he's too nervous to speak directly to me lest he say the wrong thing. when you email each date invitation can be so well thought out that he will never say the wrong thing. i view online dating as a means to meeting someone in person, not as a way of gaining another im buddy or pen pal. sure its scary to ask someone out directly, or speak directly to get to know someone else, but its THE ONLY way to truly get to know someone. but we all know this. and yes i have asked these types of guys to phone me directly, but i truly am looking for someone who already knows that directly relating to someone is better than virtually getting to know them. online dating is only successful when it becomes in person dating and when it doesnt remain online dating.