Sunday, July 6, 2008

busy signal

its so interesting how so many people are just "so very busy" to the point that they barely have time to date. granted as time goes by everyone gains more personal and professional responsibilities and we do get busier. but how busy are we really?
often a guy will call me for a date and suddenly ill realise that he really is so booked that perhaps he could pencil me in for a week from tuesday.
women arent immune to giving the busy signal either. many women will make a date with a man and tell him they only have an hour and then they have something "important " to attend to . this way they dont have to "waste" too much time being out with someone they might not like. on the off chance they like the guy , they lose. the guy figures the lady is not too interested since she only has an "hour " to devote to dating.
sometimes guys dont want to commit to a date because maybe something or someone better will turn up for the evening they are devoting to their prospective date. apparently they too are sure that the date will be a disaster, so they want to make sure that they only engage in one when they wont be missing out on anything else.
im not a pollyanna by any stretch of the imagination, but i do know that if one would like to meet "the one" , one has to make time to potentially meet "the one" instead of solely giving the busy signal.

5 comments:

Rafi G. said...

why date someone if you think there is no point and no chance? if there is something "more important" to be doing, why bother at all?

frum single female said...

the general feeling of these people(not myself) is that its been so tough finding someone that they dont want to make time to meet anyone because they dont think that anyone will work out.this is why they make sure only to make dates at times that they have absolutely nothing else to do.for these people anything will be more important than dating. this is why they dont want to bother.

הצעיר שלמה בן רפאל לבית שריקי ס"ט said...

I personally think it's somewhat 'evil' to 'commit' only a short amount of time to any person, especially a person who's interested in meeting you, and perhaps getting to know you well...quite evil..

(thank G-d never happened to me though!]

Single And Jewish said...

here is a question...
whould you have time to go out on a date with me?
you would probably say no..as you dont know anything about me. who my great grandparents were etc.
in theory for finding "the one" and doing everything you can you should say yes!

frum single female said...

single and jewish-
you are very sweet, but
i think im probably out of your dating age range. you mentioned in a previous post that you are thirty . im a bit older than you are.