Tuesday, June 28, 2011

frum and single

i think i have hit my saturation point in the new york singles scene. with all of the singles here you would think i would have met mr .right. guess again. i always thought that if i did not find anyone by a certain age i would leave. i have passed that age and now im thinking now what?
i take advantage of the cultural aspects of new york city , but i also know that other cities have culture as well.  the same things that are in new york city exist elsewhere but on a smaller scale. though new york city has so much to offer, there is not always enough time in the day to enjoy it all anyway.
the job market is tough everywhere, but even the fact that i have a job right now isn't enough to keep me here. i am not a chief executive commanding a ginormous salary or someone with a family to support.
 the shtus in the shidduch scene is driving me a bit crazy. there are lots of mr. right nows out there just not a lot of men who will be there for the long haul. i don't know if the phenomenon is new york specific or if its this way everywhere. i just don't want to be single forever and i see some of the older than me singles around here and i don't want to be one of them.
any suggestions?

1 comment:

%Shocked% said...

I don't know how old you are, but you don't sound like you're becoming like any of the older singles I know. I have a relative, female, who dated many many guys in the NYC area before finally meeting her husband.

The only suggestion I can make is to make the cheshbon of whether there's just something, a quality or trait, about New York guys that you think is the problem or you just haven't met the right guy. Also, how much of a New Yorker are you? Do you feel that someone with an out-of-town attitude and background would be compatible? I think that would be a good start to helping you with your decision.

Good luck with your decision!