when i turned 30 a good friend of mine who was married with three kids at the time informed me that if she hadn't gotten married by the time she was thirty that she would have just married anyone and have kids with him. i remember thinking how preposterous she sounded to me at the time. marry ANYONE just to have kids? how could anyone actually do that? i thought.
flash forward to the present. well i still would not do that , but i have more of an understanding of why someone might do that. the fear of never giving birth to a child is real . for some it will never happen. then again , i was always afraid of just marrying ANYONE and then not having a kid with him anyway. or worse . to share the bond of sharing parentage of a child with someone i did not at any point care much for seemed like too much to bear. couples who marry because they want to share a life together as well as kids together may divorce but at least they went for it with the proper intent.
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