Monday, April 2, 2012

2 years

my father's yahrtzeit is coming up soon. its hard to believe that it has been two years since his passing.
when someone that close passes it effects a person in ways one would not believe until one experiences it. it forces a person to face up to mortality. its not an easy thing to experience. fortunately or unfortunately there are many to commiserate with once one has experienced the death of a parent. its a club one never asked to join, but one is a member of nonetheless.
its two years since his passing but only a year since i have stopped being in avelus. every time there has been a holiday this year it seemed like a cloud had been lifted since the year of avelus. this year it will be a year since the cloud has been lifted and life has continued. its not exactly as it had been before, but
the cloud is now gone and it is time to remember those who have passed with light instead of darkness.

1 comment:

still waiting said...

when my siblings and i finished our year of aveilus a few months back we were saddened as we felt "now we are just like any other orphan out there". but in reality i am seeing what you say, in the second year there is still some significance to each passing holiday. but after two years you are just old news, like you said just another club member