compassion

i live in an apartment building with 95%  jews. it is always a challenge to find a shabbos goy. often frum tenants mistake non-frum tenants for non-jews. more than once i have saved people from the embarrassment as well as averah of asking a jewish person to be a shabbos goy.
aside from those who are actually jewish there are those who think they are jewish who live in my apartment building. there is a woman who does not look like your typical ashkenazic jew who is married to a non-frum jewish man in my building. she wears a jewish star and always speaks about the jewish holidays. she even wishes everyone a good holiday when a jewish holiday comes up. even though she may not actually be jewish i would never ask her to be a shabbos goy. it would embarrass her regardless of the validity of her jewishness.
the other day i saw her with a new hairstyle which she told me was a sheitel (exact word) and that she is getting in touch with her jewish roots. i had not realized it was a wig, but had i thought it was a wig and she did not mentioned the jewish part i would have worried that she was ill. she also was wearing a skirt, but until she mentioned the jewish part i wouldn't have given it much thought. women wear skirts . i went on to wish her a good shabbos .
what is really funny is that  though she is from a foreign country she is from a foreign country where i know jews exist, its just that i never had assumed that she was actually jewish by birth. i still do not know if she is a convert or if she was actually born jewish. i would never ask anyone this type of question because she is a neighbor and it is irrelevant. there was never any reason for me to know either way. she may end up having a proper conversion, she may already actually be jewish. unless she tells me (or if i hear it from the grapevine) i will not know.
many times i have met people and assumed that they were not jewish and they in fact were. i think that it is much harder to find a shabbos goy  than one really thinks.