money,money , money

in 1950's america women were housewives and men were the breadwinners. though i don't want to go back to the 1950's i do admit that the roles of the sexes was easier. everyone knew what one's roles were. now things are a lot more complicated. not only do men want women to work they often want a woman who makes a lot of money. oh and most of the child care duties are still performed by the mother. there all also women who are so independent that they do not want to be beholden to their husbands financially so much so that they will refuse  to use his money  because it would be relying on him too much. there are other women who would prefer to be the sole breadwinner of the family because then they are in control and not reliant on a man.
i think that the ability to support ones self financially is important for women as well as men. money means power so i can see how women want to financial independence . this financial independence should not however get in the way of being able to share in a marriage situation.  i have never been married, but i definitely see this as an issue. i think that  a lot of women are trapped in bad marriages because they have children and cannot support themselves if they do not remain married . sometimes a husband dies and if the wife does not have a strong income source she will be  in trouble.
everyone spends money differently. when one marries one has to make sure they know what the other person's spending habits and style is  otherwise one could have a very unpleasant surprise.