Sunday, January 25, 2009

unbalanced

after reading frumkeptic's most recent post do frum people believe in gd ,it got me thinking of the past....

years ago i dated a guy who had a quandary. he couldnt reconcile how someone could be frum and not be a completely upstanding individual. you know the type.... shomer shabbos, but have horrible midos...... wear the most tzanuah oufits, but cruel to their employees....only eat yoshon and yet channel their inner bernie madoff... you catch my drift. this chap was a bt.

of course all of us bt or otherwise have to reconcile this imbalance, but for a bt this is especially trying. they became frum because they believed the torah way to be more perfect than the secular route, and if all of those who have seen the light dont fully uphold it , then what?

as a teenager i had grappled with such issues, eventually coming to the conclusion that people are people , frum or not. just because there are those who identify themselves as frum who are not the most righteous, it doesnt invalidate the torah. one cannot judge the validity of the torah by those who follow it. i tried to convey these thoughts to my friend, but i dont know if he got it.

at the time i was afraid this quandary might cause this young chap to leave frumkeit. it is now so long ago. i wonder if he is still frum. and if he's still frum, is he still single???

5 comments:

Originally From Brooklyn said...

He probably moved to Teaneck where everyone is upstanding citizens....

Ookamikun said...

Don't forget all the speeches BTs get from their parents pointing out same.

I told one of my friends, "Are you religious for the benefit of those people or for your own?"

I'd say that the beginner problem is not just that they do all those things but that they look down on BTs and those who are not as "machmir" as inferior.

I just noticed this. Don't know why I didn't before.
For the love of G-d, GRAMMAR!!!
Capitalize your sentences, don't forget apostrophes and there's no space before a comma!!!
If you're using firefox, there's absolutely no excuse for forgetting apostrophes.

frum single female said...

moshe- im a blogger, not an english teacher. i do spellcheck before i publish my posts. if it took you this long to figure out i dont use capital letters, it cant be that bad...
i guess all lower case letters is my thing. anyway, mark twain wrote huckleberry finn with much worse grammar and spelling and faired quite well.

Ookamikun said...

I'm also not an English teacher. Not an excuse. :-P
*Grammar Nazi* gives you an F.

frum single female said...

well, i suppose i should put a disclaimer like frum satire does. he says hes not resposible for his grammar or spelling . anyway, i dont read blogs for their outstanding grammar . and i like how i write.