levi aron's ex-wife met him from the dating website saw you at sinai. it wasn't from jdate and it wasn't from frumster. bet that tidbit isn't going to get that website more traffic. i don't blame saw you at sinai for having nut jobs on their site any more than i would blame any other dating website. they don't run background checks on their members. the only thing is saw you at sinai has 'shadchanim' whereas on the other dating sites you can contact prospective dates directly. i never joined saw you at sinai. i tried to on several occasions but that questionnaire is too tedious . the other thing is that the 'shadchanim' never actually meet who they are trying to match up so unless i chose a shadchan that was someone i actually have met i think its kind of bogus.
the worst part is that i can imagine that even shadchanim who personally knew levi aron would tout him as a catch. after all he was thirty five and divorced. he could even make a commitment ladies.what a sick world we live in.so even if you actually meet a shadchan and they actually have met the individual they are trying to pass off on you there is no guarantee that he isn't an ax murderer.
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Never mind the website, the shadchan.. the family and the people around him weren't either able to predict what he was capable of doing. You can't say with these people but definitely scary in being set up with strangers
well, i don't think that anyone predicted what levi aron was capable of but i have a hunch that people knew that he had issues that were not the good kind . i do agree with you that it is scary being set up with strangers . the thing is its not the shtetl anymore and we all occasionally end up meeting and being set up with unknowns no matter how well we try to check them out.a lot of people don't want to say loshon hara so they don't tell me all i need to know about a procspective date even when the person i am asking knows me well. which all of course makes things even scarier.
yeah and we always hear about these stories where one of the spouse had an illness of some sort and nothing was said until it was too late
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I am not saying I disagree with your post here but as it says in many books I've read about dating online whether in the secular sense or in the jewish sense of online dating you should always show some sort of safety when dating online. I am in no way a spokes person for saw you at sinai, I do pay for the account with them and even though you are correct by saying that the 'shadchanim' do not meet the person personally you do as a paid member have the right to request to speak to your shadchan, some even typically require that they speak with you in order for them to take you on as their shidduch.
Then also there is also away to get the reference information on the people the member puts down as their references so that the other member or someone close to the member can call the people to check on the member they are to be setup with.
i agree with you that it is important to get references/check out who you are dating online especially because its online which i do. i suppose with a shadchan they can give you the references before having anything to do with the prospective date as opposed to asking the person themselves for references or asking around in general for information about the person, its just that you don't necessarily need a shadchan to get references. but the point is well taken that you don't have to ask the person directly for a reference if its on saw you at sinai, which could be a plus.
Hi,
Everyone who ever was looking for a shiduch heard about Sawyouatsinai and probably it's the most popular Shiduchim site.
Did you hear about http://Shiduch.org site?
Did you have experience with it, can i trust it?
Thank you
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