Tuesday, January 6, 2015

The Grass is Always Greener

     We always want what we can't or should not have. This adage could not be more true with regards to dating. If I had a nickel for every time a friend male or female has said to me that dating goyim is so much better than dating a Jew I would be rich. The story always goes that whatever it is that they dislike about Jewish men or Jewish women , a gentile man or woman is always kinder and more appreciative of them. I find it a shame that they feel that someone of their own religion would appreciate them more. My feeling has always been is that there are lovely people of every religion but if you want to lead a Jewish life , marry a Jewish spouse. It is sad though that I have heard so many Jewish men criticise  Jewish women so much that it makes me feel that the only people that I hear extolling the virtues of Jewish women are non-Jewish men. The world is really upside down. I work with a lot of non-Jewish women. Some are nice and some are not.
      Sometimes stereotypes ring true, but not always. If you want an excuse to do the opposite of what one should one can always find a loophole. In the end we are all people and sometimes what someone thinks they don't like about Jewish men or Jewish women is what they don't like about women or men in general, but they are too busy kvetching to realize it.

1 comment:

Mighty Garnel Ironheart said...

It's not entirely untrue.
Consider: when one is Jewish one either identifies as a Jew or doesn't. The Jew who doesn't isn't going to be on the radar of the Jew who is because the Jew who is probably wants another identifying Jew to date.
Now, among identifying Jews you're either religious or you're not. If you're not, chances are you're an "ethnic" Jew which means you feel you need to play up to a stereotype to be a "good Jew". That generally means being a Jewish American Prince or Princess.
If you're religious then you need to play up to the stereotype of your religious group.
The problem is that these stereotypes are generally obnoxious.
Gentiles, on the other hand, are much more numerous, come in many varieties, and don't feel any pressure to be a "good Gentile" so they can relax and be themselves. So much more enchanting.