Friday, July 17, 2009

love the one your with

i remember listening to a song as a kid where the chorus had the line "love the one your with" in it. i remember not quite processing what this really meant. at the time i would ponder how someone could be in a relationship with someone they really didnt dig just to be in a relationship. fyi, this is not something i ever do. thus im perpetually single. however, thinking of this song whose name i dont recall, its really made me think. does it mean more than what i had previously thought? does it mean like who likes you? let me explain. sometimes the thrill of the chase can be alluring, instead of going for a more available individual. subconsciously it can be scary . someone more available may really want to have a relationship. the reality is that mr. cool really isnt so cool and it would be better to pursue someone more solid.

17 comments:

Dude with hat (aka BTS) said...

Sounds like you're not yet sure who you're looking for?

frum single female said...

just trying to consider all the possibilities. after all i am single and what have been doing hasnt seemed to have been working....

CJ Srullowitz said...

The CSNY song is, lulei demistafina, not helpful for those looking for their bashert. It's can either be seen as promoting settling or promoting promiscuity. Either way, it's not for me.

Many singles who date over several years encounter another problem in that they are evolving at a rapid rate, so that by the time they find the guy who would have been perfect for them at 22, they have already moved beyond that stage of life.

frum single female said...

cj strullowitz-
yes, well this is very true. what i was looking for at 22 is very different than what i am looking for now. i guess sometimes i wish i could have been like some who " just marry anyone" because it seems easier than the path i have chosen. then again i dont think i could have done that anyway. and as for the other connotation of the song, i do not mean that either.
if im really honest with myself , settling would never have made me or the other person happy either. it would have just made me divorced.

Ookamikun said...

And mr wrong could just be mr wrongfully accused.

Dude with hat (aka BTS) said...

May be you should try something very opposite to what you think you are looking for? Like someone much younger than you or even something 'weirder'? At the last - what are you losing?

Ookamikun said...

Yeah, like someone who doesn't speak English. ;-)

Dude with hat (aka BTS) said...

@Moshe - well I didn't say something that's troublesome to do. I said something opposite - that's different... (and please don't offer her dating girls - that's not what I mean either)

Ookamikun said...

Then why did it sound like you were? ;-)

Dude with hat (aka BTS) said...

@moshe
That's because you have dirty thoughts! May be I meant something as weird as I am?? lol...

frum single female said...

i have gone out with much younger guys, they are great. they arent like older guys or guys closer to my age who think they are doing me a favor by dating someone the age i am. the problem is that a younger guy dating an older woman isnt usually all that sincere and would not want to marry someone so much older. which leaves me back in square one.

Dude with hat (aka BTS) said...

I know it's a rude question, but how old are now?

frum single female said...

dude with hat-
im sworn to secrecy. im older than you are. of this i am sure.

Dude with hat (aka BTS) said...

well if you claim you passed 22 in the past that means you are at least 2 years older than i or more

Ookamikun said...

I am so enjoying this conversation :-D

frum single female said...

yes moshe im sure you are.

Dude with hat (aka BTS) said...

@moshe
Shat up you the married one! lol